Wow...And Shame vs Trivia

That last post was quite an experience. I'm having my after Linux/Windows thing, cigarette. Nice to relax in the after glow. I talked to my dad today when he got home for lunch from work. He's 85 years old and still works full-time. He is having surgery tomorrow at noon-thirty. He has an artificial hip that needs to be replaced. He's a stud. I don't know how he does it. He dosen't even use Viagra. He is my hero. I made a web site for him once, well it's still on the net. It talks about how he was a WWII hero. I remember when I was younger, my father was a partier. He had his work, and bowling friends and they threw quite the card parties. Of course I would hustle them for drinks. Going from one card player to the next one. "Can I have a sip?" No wonder I don't remember much of my childhood. Probably in a blackout!! He and my mother were married 48 years, until her untimely death in 1989. My father kept a secret with him during all those years. Something he did while fighting Nazis in Europe. He shared that secret with me. Of course to me what he did was no big deal, I'm sure I would have done the same, under the circumstances. But to him, it was a big deal. I'm happy he was able to get it off his chest. This brings me to the shame, trivia thing. We have things about our pasts that we may be deeply ashamed of. But if you share it with another, it just isn't that big of a deal to the listener. Share the things you are ashamed of. It's no big deal. Unless what you have to say could land you in jail. Shame is toxic, you don't need it.